Summary: Hold your child for the first 5-7 months. Breast feed on cue until the child is fully loved and satisfied and no longer has the urge to breast feed (about 4-7 years). Never leave your child in a way that you are inaccessible to them. This is how you can follow nature’s intention for infants and children. The current way we take care of our children is tragic, it causes them deep pain, and its origin is a feeling of being separated.